Choices

As much as destiny and random chance events have a role in playing out our stories, I believe we are defined by the series of choices that we make. Sometimes these choices take up just an iota of our energy and seem very easy, but such a thing happens after years of conditioning and taking the decisions along similar lines keeping in mind a larger goal in sight. In extrapolation aren't habits just choices taken on very regular basis? 

When we move into a new city or any kind of new space where we have to be open to make friends, we feel the connection is very spontaneous, but what you have to understand is that it is a very conscious magic executed by multiple layered choices; subconsciously you have noted the traits, the small acts which reflect morals, their interests and passions, and then understood that this person aligns with your being and gone ahead to become friends.Situation-ships happen when this ownership of choices is not taken. 

Medical science makes you understand that there is  lot of randomness and this entropy brings into picture lot of unexpected events. Life events are random, but in the grand scheme of things there is an order. Big bang explosion was a tailored event, what ensued later is a chaos but chaos is the order. 

Cancers. They are so random you can say, who will get, who will not get it, when it will start, very very random. My pathology textbook made me question then what is the point if anyone can get any disease then how do we live? What is the point of us trying to stay healthy? The book answered my question in a later chapter. There is a 2 hit hypothesis- your genetics might put you at certain risks, so if you are carrying these genes your chances of developing a certain disease are higher than the pool of the entire population. The twist is that the second hit is in your hands-lifestyle, stress, habits, food- do it right and the disease can not get manifested, do it wrong and bam you have unlocked the devil. 

Again things can not be this simple, not all diseases follow this 2 hit rule- some need just the faulty gene and some are just related to exposure in this life. 

What is reassuring though is that it is not entirely random, there are lot of things we have control over. To be very blunt we have a certain extent of control, on the quality of our problems. So, choose to keep life simple, there are enough chaotic events going to happen to you anyway, you better not add to it😉